13 Mar 2023

How often do we celebrate sadness?

I don't know if it's a ridiculous question to ask, or should I say how often do we take in the sadness and live with it in the moment? 

Few of us cry, most really try very hard to distract or be obsessed and conscious about how to get out of it, and then there is me, who allows all the sadness to culminate into suffering in all possible ways and feel it much more than it should be.

The reason why i mentioned celebrate instead of processing (may be) is because, it's very much valid and an emotion, even stronger than happiness sometimes. It obviously hits harder and breaks us more, so i thought calling it celebration fits well.

The beauty of celebrating the sadness also helps us see how we come out of it eventually. Last two days after an another rejection over the same old dating process broke me down, cried like how i used to years ago made me wonder how can I break down for someone who was definitely not a match, but it dint matter, it still affected me irrespective of the reasons. I also realised it's more to do with not being able to get to an end to this dating situation. 

After two days, i remembered how much i like myself and how irrelevant it is when someone i dint even like rejected me and the whole situation is on the dating loop rather than it is on myself or the other person or even the rejection in it itself.

It was post the high point of sadness that I had to feel and pass it through my system to get to a point where i can understand the normality of the situation and accept it. Without really making a big deal about it, I would have never understood, hence neither ignoring sadness nor crying would give me the answers.